Ngaba uzifumanisa ungalunganga kwaye iingcinga zakho zikhohlakele? Ukufumana uxolo lwengqondo kufuna umgudu kunye nokwazisa. Nazi iindlela ezingama-40 zokufumana uxolo lwengqondo kunye nokufezekisa ukuzola kwangaphakathi.
Ngaba uziva ngathi iimvakalelo zakho zikongamela wena? Funda ngamanyathelo afunekayo ukuze uhlukanise iimvakalelo kwaye uphinde ulawule iingcinga zakho.
Umonde ungaphezulu kwesidima; yimfuneko yobomi obuzalisekileyo. Funda eli nqaku ukwazi ukuba ungafunda njani ukuba nomonde kumanyathelo ama-5 alula.
Uzibuza ukuba ungayeka njani ukucinga ngaphezulu kuyo yonke into? Ngokusebenzisa la manyathelo alula, emihla ngemihla ukoyisa ukukhathazeka, ukutyeba, kunye nokucinga kakhulu, sinokulufumana uxolo kunye nokuzola kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.
Ukuziva ukhathazekile ngokweemvakalelo kuyimveliso yolunye uhlobo lokungalungelelani kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Ukufumana oyena nobangela wokudinwa ngokweemvakalelo kubalulekile kwimpilo yethu iphela.
Sonke sixakekile sinemisebenzi kunye neentsapho. Ngazo zonke izinto ekufuneka sizicingile, Nazi izinto onokuzenza ukuze ufunde ukucoca ingqondo yakho.
Ukuba uziva uphantsi kwaye udimazekile, lixesha lokuba uzinyange ukuze uphinde ubenakho ukukhuthazeka kunye nothando olufunayo. Sonke kufuneka sizinyange ngamanye amaxesha. Nazi iindlela ezingama-30 zokuba nobubele kuwe.
Akululanga ukoyisa ukudakumba noxinzelelo. Nantsi indlela yokuyeka ukuba lusizi kunye nokunciphisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo kwaye woyise uxinzelelo.
Ukuba ufumana umxholo opheleleyo wokucamngca, okanye uziva ufuna ixesha elininzi lokuziqhelanisa nokucamngca kwasekuseni, eli nqaku liza kukunceda.
Ukungalawuleki komsindo kubangela iingxaki ezinkulu ebomini bakho. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukukhupha umsindo ngokufanelekileyo. Nanga amanyathelo amane okwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nomsindo.
'Kutheni ndivakalelwa kangaka nje?' usenokubuza. Ayisiyonto imbi leyo. Umntu onemvakalelo uziva yonke into. Lo mntu unxibelelana nobomi kunye nabantu kumanqanaba anzulu engqondweni, emzimbeni nasemphefumlweni.
Kutheni ndiziva ndidandathekile? Uninzi lwethu ludandatheka ngamanye amaxesha ngaphandle kwesizathu. Nazi izizathu eziqhelekileyo, kunye neengcebiso zeengcali zokukubuyisela kulonwabo kunye nokuhlala apho.
Ukuphila ubomi ngokuzeleyo kufuneka ube u-agile ngokweemvakalelo. Zizo ezi zakhono zolawulo lweemvakalelo ezili-10 eziza kukunceda ukuba uphile ubomi obuthandayo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela yokucamngca oyikhethayo, ukuziqhelanisa nokuphindaphinda kuya kukuhambisa kufutshane nenkululeko, ingqondo kunye nokukhanyiselwa.
Wonke umntu ufuna ukuphila ubomi obulungileyo. Ungabuphucula ubomi bakho ngokufunda indlela yokuthula ingqondo yakho kwaye uhlale ubekhona usebenzisa ezi ndlela zisi-5.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukucamngca okuhle kunokukunceda ukuba ucinge ngakumbi, kwaye ekugqibeleni kuncede usondele kubomi bakho bamaphupha? Nantsi indlela yokuziqhelanisa nokucamngca okuhle ngamanyathelo ama-2 alula.
Ukubonisa iimpawu zokophuka ngokweemvakalelo? Ezi zilungiso zikhawulezayo zili-15 ziya kukunyusa kwaye zibaleke ngaphandle kwexesha kwaye zikwenze uphume womelele ekugqibeleni.
Kutheni ndidandatheke kangaka? Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baziva bedandathekile bengazi ukuba kutheni. Ke ngoko siye sahamba kwizinto ezi-4 ezinokubangela ukuba abantu badandatheke ngokufihlakeleyo.
Sukulushukumisa ukuxhalaba kwakho njengesiqhelo ukukhathazeka. Kungaphezulu lee kunoko kwaye kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu kuwe ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.
Ukucamngca ngezibonelelo kunokuphucula yonke indawo yobomi bakho kunye nokunyusa impumelelo kunye nolonwabo. Funda ngendlela onokuzuza ngayo kwaye uqalise namhlanje.